May 20, 2026
The Day a Truck Took Her Strength — and How She Got It Back
Rachel Druckenmiller was out for a run when she was hit by a truck. The crash fractured her spine — and it fractured something harder to see: her trust in her own body.
This Quick Lift pulls the biggest lessons from that conversation. It's not a fitness episode, and it's definitely not about working out to look a certain way. It's about what happens when movement becomes the way you come back to yourself.
After the accident, Rachel felt weak, scared, and disconnected. What rebuilt her wasn't a mindset shift or a magic moment of clarity. It was lifting. It was consistency. It was support. It was borrowing belief from someone else until she could believe in herself again.
Three takeaways we break down:
▪ Confidence isn't a feeling — it's self-trust, and self-trust is built by keeping promises to yourself
▪ Strength changes how you show up — in a room, in a hard conversation, in your own life
▪ You don't rebuild alone — and the people who tell you that you do are wrong
Confidence doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from doing the thing. Keeping the promise. Taking the walk. Lifting the weight. Asking for help.
One rep at a time.
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Welcome to a loud and lifted quick lift, the
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shorter episode where we take a few of the biggest
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takeaways from the full loud and lifted conversation
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and make them a little bit more practical. And
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today we're talking about my conversation from
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Rachel Druckenmiller. Rachel is known for helping
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people get unmuted, which obviously is very aligned
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with loud and lifted. We love a woman who wants
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people to stop holding back. But this conversation
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took a different, more personal direction than
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what she normally talks about. Rachel shared
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the story of being hit by a truck six years ago
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while she was out for a run. She suffered a spinal
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fracture and recovery was not just physical,
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it was emotional, mental, and it changed how
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she trusted her body. It changed how she moved
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through the world. What really stuck with me
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is that Rachel just didn't think her way back
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to confidence. She literally built her way back
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through lifting, through movement, through showing
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up when she was scared. Through working with
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people who helped her believe she could do more
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than she thought. And I think that's such an
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important lesson because we talk about confidence
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a lot, like all the time, and it's not something
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you can just magically have. Like, just be confident.
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Okay, great. Super helpful. But we all know that's
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not how it works. Confidence is built. And in
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Rachel's case, it was built one rep at a time.
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So here are the three big takeaways from that
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conversation. Takeaway number one confidence
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is really self -trust Rachel shared something
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in the episode that I loved she said confidence
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comes from this idea of Trusting fully and that
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makes so much sense Because confidence is not
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just walking into room with great posture and
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a good outfit. Although let's be clear those
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things help But real confidence it's deeper than
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that. It's asking. Do I trust myself? Do I trust
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myself to keep going when something is hard?
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Do I trust myself to recover if something does
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not go perfectly? Do I trust myself to do what
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I said I was going to do? After Rachel's accident,
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she did not trust her body the same way. And
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of course she didn't. She had been through something
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traumatic. She was scared to move, scared to
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hurt again, and scared to push too hard. So when
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she started lifting, it was not glamorous. It
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was not some dramatic comeback montage. It was
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small weights, shaky arms. tears and training
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sessions and a lot of fear. But then she kept
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showing up anyway. And that is where confidence
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started to be rebuilt. Not because she felt amazing
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right away, but because she kept proving to herself,
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I can do this. And that applies to all of us.
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Hopefully your thing is not lifting after an
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accident, but maybe it's speaking up in a meeting.
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or setting a boundary or applying for the job,
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starting the business. Maybe it's walking into
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a room where you felt completely out of place.
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We want confidence first, but usually confidence
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comes after the proof. Action item, pick one
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small promise you can keep to yourself this week.
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One, not a full personality transplant, not like
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I'm changing my whole life by Monday. Just pick
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something simple. a 10 minute walk, a one workout,
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going to bed 30 minutes earlier, sending the
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email, making the appointment, asking for help.
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The point is not that the action has to be huge.
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The point is that you do what you said you were
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going to do. That is how self -trust gets built.
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Takeaway number two, strength changes how you
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show up. One of my favorite parts of the conversation
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was when Rachel talked about how getting physically
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stronger changed how she carried herself. And
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I mean literally. She talked about a stronger
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core, stronger back, stronger glutes, and how
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that changed the way she walked into a room.
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It's making me change how I'm sitting here right
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now actually thinking about it. But I love this
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because sometimes we get a little weird about
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women caring about fitness, clothes, hair, appearance,
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all of it. There's this tension of, well, it
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shouldn't matter how you look. And sure, that's
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fine. In a perfect little world with no mirrors
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and no social media photos, maybe. But the real
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point, it's not vanity. The point is how you
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feel. When you feel stronger, you show up differently.
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When you feel good in your body, you speak differently.
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When you are proud of yourself, you carry that
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into the room. Rachel even shared that someone
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once told her she had main character energy,
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which I love because that's exactly what we're
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talking about. It's not arrogance. It's just
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presence. The difference between walking in a
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room apologetically and walking in like, you
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know, you have something to offer for women that
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matters because a lot of us have been taught
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to shrink. And then, of course, there's the whole
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be confident, but not too confident, be polished,
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but not intimidating, be strong, but not difficult.
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Have opinions, but maybe soften them with six
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exclamation points and adjust checking. It's
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exhausting, truly. Rachel's story is such a good
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reminder that strength does not stay in the gym.
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It follows you to work conversations, leadership
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into the way you ask for what you need. Action
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item, this week, notice how you're physically
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showing up. Not in a judgmental way, not in a
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go critique yourself in every window reflection
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assignment. Please don't. Just notice. Do you
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walk into rooms like you belong there? Do you
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sit like you have something to contribute? Do
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you rush when you speak? Do you apologize before
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you even make the point? Do you make yourself
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smaller without even realizing it? Evaluate that
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and then pick one small physical cue. Maybe it's
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planting your feet before you speak, sitting
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up a little taller, sitting at the table, taking
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a breath before you answer. Stop starting every
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sentence with sorry. Sometimes your body has
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to lean before your brain catches up. Takeaway
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number three, you don't rebuild alone. This was
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probably the part of the conversation I loved
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most. Rachel talked about her trainer, her husband,
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her vocal coach, her producer, her friends, all
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these people who played a role in helping her
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rebuild. And she used the phrase borrowing belief.
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This is really good because sometimes you don't
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have enough of belief in yourself. You are not
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there. You cannot fake it. Sometimes you need
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someone else to say, yes, you can, until you
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believe it too. Rachel's trainer did just that
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for her. She helped create a safe place for Rachel
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to try her things again. And Rachel trusted her
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enough to borrow that belief. That is not weakness.
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That is wisdom. And this connects to something
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we talk about all the time on Loud and Lifted.
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No one is doing this alone. No one. Not the strongest
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woman you know. not the most successful woman
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you follow, not the person who looks like she
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has everything figured out. And Rachel said something
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that really hit me. Earlier in her life, she
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had to practice asking for help. She used to
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believe asking for help would make people think
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she was weak or incapable. And I think so many
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women can understand that. We are great at helping.
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We will organize the thing, we will send the
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text, we will bring the food, and check on everyone
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while carrying the invisible load. And somehow,
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we remember someone else's kid needs a white
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shirt by Thursday. But asking for help ourselves,
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suddenly we're all, no, I'm fine. Are we though?
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Rachel's point was that people who love you want
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to help you, but they cannot support what they
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do not know. Action item, ask yourself this,
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whose belief do I need to borrow right now? Maybe
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it's a coach, trainer, friend, mentor, therapist.
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Maybe it's a group of women who will let you
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talk yourself out of that thing you said you
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wanted. Then do one thing. Send the text, book
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the session, ask the question, say it out loud,
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and tell someone when you're stuck. You do not
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have to make a dramatic announcement. This does
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not have to be a TED Talk in your group chat.
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Just let one person in. This is how support starts.
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So to recap, Rachel's story gave us three big
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reminders. First, confidence is self -trust.
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It is built by keeping promises to yourself,
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even small ones. Second, strength changes how
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you show up. When you feel strong, capable, and
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grounded, the energy goes with you in every room.
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And third, you do not rebuild alone. Borrow belief,
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ask for help, let someone support you before
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you hit the wall. And here's the line I keep
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coming back to, you don't have to wait for confidence,
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you have to build it. One rep, one walk, one
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conversation, one promise, one ask for help,
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one small step back to yourself. Rachel's story
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started with something traumatic, but the lesson
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is not only for people who have been through
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a major accident, it's for anyone who feels stuck.
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Anyone who feels disconnected from herself or
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anyone who's been waiting to feel ready. Anyone
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who needs to stop thinking about the comeback
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and start taking the first step. And that is
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what loud and lifted is all about. Getting louder,
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getting stronger, getting lifted and not doing
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it alone. If this resonated with you, go listen
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to the full conversation with Rachel. It's a
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powerful personal and such a good reminder that
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confidence is not something we say. It is something
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we build. Thanks for listening to this quick
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lift. Until next time, stay loud and stay lifted.
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Welcome to a loud and lifted quick lift, the
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shorter episode where we take a few of the biggest
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takeaways from the full loud and lifted conversation
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and make them a little bit more practical. And
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today we're talking about my conversation from
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Rachel Druckenmiller. Rachel is known for helping
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people get unmuted, which obviously is very aligned
00:00:18.539 --> 00:00:20.500
with loud and lifted. We love a woman who wants
00:00:20.500 --> 00:00:23.280
people to stop holding back. But this conversation
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took a different, more personal direction than
00:00:25.679 --> 00:00:28.160
what she normally talks about. Rachel shared
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the story of being hit by a truck six years ago
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while she was out for a run. She suffered a spinal
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fracture and recovery was not just physical,
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it was emotional, mental, and it changed how
00:00:39.000 --> 00:00:41.799
she trusted her body. It changed how she moved
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through the world. What really stuck with me
00:00:44.100 --> 00:00:46.859
is that Rachel just didn't think her way back
00:00:46.859 --> 00:00:49.979
to confidence. She literally built her way back
00:00:49.979 --> 00:00:53.020
through lifting, through movement, through showing
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up when she was scared. Through working with
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people who helped her believe she could do more
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than she thought. And I think that's such an
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important lesson because we talk about confidence
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a lot, like all the time, and it's not something
00:01:07.170 --> 00:01:10.469
you can just magically have. Like, just be confident.
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Okay, great. Super helpful. But we all know that's
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not how it works. Confidence is built. And in
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Rachel's case, it was built one rep at a time.
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So here are the three big takeaways from that
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conversation. Takeaway number one confidence
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is really self -trust Rachel shared something
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in the episode that I loved she said confidence
00:01:31.700 --> 00:01:35.659
comes from this idea of Trusting fully and that
00:01:35.659 --> 00:01:38.620
makes so much sense Because confidence is not
00:01:38.620 --> 00:01:41.239
just walking into room with great posture and
00:01:41.239 --> 00:01:43.260
a good outfit. Although let's be clear those
00:01:43.260 --> 00:01:46.299
things help But real confidence it's deeper than
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that. It's asking. Do I trust myself? Do I trust
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myself to keep going when something is hard?
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Do I trust myself to recover if something does
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not go perfectly? Do I trust myself to do what
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I said I was going to do? After Rachel's accident,
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she did not trust her body the same way. And
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of course she didn't. She had been through something
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traumatic. She was scared to move, scared to
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hurt again, and scared to push too hard. So when
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she started lifting, it was not glamorous. It
00:02:14.520 --> 00:02:18.020
was not some dramatic comeback montage. It was
00:02:18.020 --> 00:02:21.409
small weights, shaky arms. tears and training
00:02:21.409 --> 00:02:24.729
sessions and a lot of fear. But then she kept
00:02:24.729 --> 00:02:27.949
showing up anyway. And that is where confidence
00:02:27.949 --> 00:02:31.270
started to be rebuilt. Not because she felt amazing
00:02:31.270 --> 00:02:34.090
right away, but because she kept proving to herself,
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I can do this. And that applies to all of us.
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Hopefully your thing is not lifting after an
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accident, but maybe it's speaking up in a meeting.
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or setting a boundary or applying for the job,
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starting the business. Maybe it's walking into
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a room where you felt completely out of place.
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We want confidence first, but usually confidence
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comes after the proof. Action item, pick one
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small promise you can keep to yourself this week.
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One, not a full personality transplant, not like
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I'm changing my whole life by Monday. Just pick
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something simple. a 10 minute walk, a one workout,
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going to bed 30 minutes earlier, sending the
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email, making the appointment, asking for help.
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The point is not that the action has to be huge.
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The point is that you do what you said you were
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going to do. That is how self -trust gets built.
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Takeaway number two, strength changes how you
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show up. One of my favorite parts of the conversation
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was when Rachel talked about how getting physically
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stronger changed how she carried herself. And
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I mean literally. She talked about a stronger
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core, stronger back, stronger glutes, and how
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that changed the way she walked into a room.
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It's making me change how I'm sitting here right
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now actually thinking about it. But I love this
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because sometimes we get a little weird about
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women caring about fitness, clothes, hair, appearance,
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all of it. There's this tension of, well, it
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shouldn't matter how you look. And sure, that's
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fine. In a perfect little world with no mirrors
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and no social media photos, maybe. But the real
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point, it's not vanity. The point is how you
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feel. When you feel stronger, you show up differently.
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When you feel good in your body, you speak differently.
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When you are proud of yourself, you carry that
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into the room. Rachel even shared that someone
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once told her she had main character energy,
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which I love because that's exactly what we're
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talking about. It's not arrogance. It's just
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presence. The difference between walking in a
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room apologetically and walking in like, you
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know, you have something to offer for women that
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matters because a lot of us have been taught
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to shrink. And then, of course, there's the whole
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be confident, but not too confident, be polished,
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but not intimidating, be strong, but not difficult.
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Have opinions, but maybe soften them with six
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exclamation points and adjust checking. It's
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exhausting, truly. Rachel's story is such a good
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reminder that strength does not stay in the gym.
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It follows you to work conversations, leadership
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into the way you ask for what you need. Action
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item, this week, notice how you're physically
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showing up. Not in a judgmental way, not in a
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go critique yourself in every window reflection
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assignment. Please don't. Just notice. Do you
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walk into rooms like you belong there? Do you
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sit like you have something to contribute? Do
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you rush when you speak? Do you apologize before
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you even make the point? Do you make yourself
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smaller without even realizing it? Evaluate that
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and then pick one small physical cue. Maybe it's
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planting your feet before you speak, sitting
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up a little taller, sitting at the table, taking
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a breath before you answer. Stop starting every
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sentence with sorry. Sometimes your body has
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to lean before your brain catches up. Takeaway
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number three, you don't rebuild alone. This was
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probably the part of the conversation I loved
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most. Rachel talked about her trainer, her husband,
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her vocal coach, her producer, her friends, all
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these people who played a role in helping her
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rebuild. And she used the phrase borrowing belief.
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This is really good because sometimes you don't
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have enough of belief in yourself. You are not
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there. You cannot fake it. Sometimes you need
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someone else to say, yes, you can, until you
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believe it too. Rachel's trainer did just that
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for her. She helped create a safe place for Rachel
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to try her things again. And Rachel trusted her
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enough to borrow that belief. That is not weakness.
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That is wisdom. And this connects to something
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we talk about all the time on Loud and Lifted.
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No one is doing this alone. No one. Not the strongest
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woman you know. not the most successful woman
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you follow, not the person who looks like she
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has everything figured out. And Rachel said something
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that really hit me. Earlier in her life, she
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had to practice asking for help. She used to
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believe asking for help would make people think
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she was weak or incapable. And I think so many
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women can understand that. We are great at helping.
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We will organize the thing, we will send the
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text, we will bring the food, and check on everyone
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while carrying the invisible load. And somehow,
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we remember someone else's kid needs a white
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shirt by Thursday. But asking for help ourselves,
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suddenly we're all, no, I'm fine. Are we though?
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Rachel's point was that people who love you want
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to help you, but they cannot support what they
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do not know. Action item, ask yourself this,
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whose belief do I need to borrow right now? Maybe
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it's a coach, trainer, friend, mentor, therapist.
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Maybe it's a group of women who will let you
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talk yourself out of that thing you said you
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wanted. Then do one thing. Send the text, book
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the session, ask the question, say it out loud,
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and tell someone when you're stuck. You do not
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have to make a dramatic announcement. This does
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not have to be a TED Talk in your group chat.
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Just let one person in. This is how support starts.
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So to recap, Rachel's story gave us three big
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reminders. First, confidence is self -trust.
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It is built by keeping promises to yourself,
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even small ones. Second, strength changes how
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you show up. When you feel strong, capable, and
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grounded, the energy goes with you in every room.
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And third, you do not rebuild alone. Borrow belief,
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ask for help, let someone support you before
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you hit the wall. And here's the line I keep
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coming back to, you don't have to wait for confidence,
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you have to build it. One rep, one walk, one
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conversation, one promise, one ask for help,
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one small step back to yourself. Rachel's story
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started with something traumatic, but the lesson
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is not only for people who have been through
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a major accident, it's for anyone who feels stuck.
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Anyone who feels disconnected from herself or
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anyone who's been waiting to feel ready. Anyone
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who needs to stop thinking about the comeback
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and start taking the first step. And that is
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what loud and lifted is all about. Getting louder,
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getting stronger, getting lifted and not doing
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it alone. If this resonated with you, go listen
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to the full conversation with Rachel. It's a
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powerful personal and such a good reminder that
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confidence is not something we say. It is something
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we build. Thanks for listening to this quick
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lift. Until next time, stay loud and stay lifted.