Stop Forcing It: Intuition, Precision & “Orientation” for Women in Leadership

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Welcome to Loud and Lifted, the podcast for women

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in leadership who want to grow their careers

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without shrinking themselves in the process.

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Today's episode is for the woman who keeps thinking,

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it's my messaging. I need to say it better. I

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need to offer more. And you're feeling scattered,

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overstimulated, and like you're spinning. My

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guest is Kayla G. And she's known for helping

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high performing women get precise about what

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actually matters so they can stop doing the most

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and too much and just start getting results.

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We talk about why It's My Messaging can be a

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trap, how to create coherence when your brain

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feels like you have 37 tabs open, and a super

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practical way to think about intuition. Not as

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woo -woo, but as a signal once you remove the

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noise. Let's get into it. Welcome to Loud and

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Lifted. Kayla, thank you so much for being here.

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How do you feel being on the other end of the

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microphone for a podcast today? I'm so excited

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because obviously I've done so many interviews

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and I had you on my channel, but it's so fine

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to be in the chair and be like, what are you

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going to ask me? Where is this going to go? And

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it kind of takes the pressure off and I love

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it. Nice. Oh, don't worry, the pressure is going

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to be on because we have a lot of questions for

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you. So you have a very different business and

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approach to business. So first of all, before

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we get into it, let's talk about who are you

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and what do you do and how do you help women?

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So I am a human design, Gene Keys, AI business

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coach for spiritual women who specifically are

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growing their business online and they really

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want to understand how to leverage social media

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courses, emails and create an entire ecosystem

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that works for them based on their energetic.

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So there's zero bro marketing like. pretty much

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anti cookie cutter approach altogether. And so

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I've been in this business now for seven years,

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and I've been podcasting for seven years and

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I've been an entrepreneur for 10 years. And so

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I just I really love the work that I do. And

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obviously, being here and having this conversation

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with you, I know there's a lot of corporate women

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listening to this, but there's going to be some

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golden fucking nuggets for you today. So I'm

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really looking forward to this chat. Yes, I love

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it and you have such a different approach because

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it's the spiritual piece of it, right? And we

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get so hung up on our checklist and professional

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development and that's all great and there's

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a place for that. But for a lot of people, they

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need to see that other angle to it. So when you

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first start working with someone, where do you

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start? Do we start with the orientation or how

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do we get moving when you start working with

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a new person? Yeah, I find that when women come

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to work with me, what typically happens is they're

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aware that they have a blind spot, but they don't

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know what the blind spot is. They're going to

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say things like, oh, I have this offer and I've

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been showing up on social media and my messaging

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and I'm doing all these things. I'm doing all

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the things. I'm podcasting, like they're just

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pulling their hair out. And what's really interesting

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is that what I noticed, so you use the word orientation

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and this is like a very non -sexy word that has

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been brought into my vocabulary in the last several

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months as it's popped up for me. is I notice

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the biggest blind spot that women have is that

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they don't realize where they're standing when

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they're looking at the problems of their business.

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So when something's not working, they'll oversimplify

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it down to, it's my messaging. If I get my messaging

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right, then everything else will work. And it's

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like, if that's not. how it works. So I help

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women rather than being so honed in on like one

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or two things and making everything wrong, or

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if things are quiet, automatically assuming it's

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not working, step back and look at where they're

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standing, the orientation, you are stepping back

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and you're looking at, okay, sure, here's the

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messaging, but then there's your offer. But when

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somebody comes into your ecosystem of they got

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your lead magnet and they're on your email list,

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how are you nurturing them? Do you have six different

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offers because you haven't been able to sell

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the first offer. So you chuffed it up to try

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and sell it better. And now your audience is

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confused. It doesn't matter how good your messaging

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is. Like if that's just one example of like the

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through line of you want to get people into your

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offer, but then look at how all of these things

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are actually. incoherent and so when you pull

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back and step out it helps women stop taking

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the unworkability of their business as a personal

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attack on themselves and thinking oh my god i'm

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not working hard enough and it's my identity

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and i have to do all the subconscious work it

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actually gets to be a lot more simple and less

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personal and it just like regulates the fuck

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out of our nervous systems when we approach business

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this way so that's kind of a you know kit and

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caboodle of what i do with women from a a farsighted

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perspective. I love that. And I feel like you're

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talking to me because I have totally done that.

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In the last year of doing my own business, you

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know, you kind of start off, you think you're

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here and then you're not really getting traction.

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So you go in another direction and then you add

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more shit and all of a sudden you're like, I

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am just throwing spaghetti at the wall and I

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don't even think anything is sticking, but I

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just keep throwing more. So it's easy to get

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overwhelmed on that and you know how it happens.

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So then it's just like... Okay, let's fix it.

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Let's approach it. You know, when you talk about

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that, obviously you're talking about it from

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a business perspective, but I couldn't help think,

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how does that impact? We talk a lot about personal

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brand, right? Like in our image, how do we, how

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does that impact that? Like just women struggle

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with that piece too of, you know, I feel like

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sometimes we try to be all things to all people.

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And, you know, we try, we try to do all this

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professional development to be better. And we're

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just kind of like spinning versus just like.

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Stopping and focusing. So how do you see that

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play into to women personally? Yeah, I think

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this is so huge because what you said specifically

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actually is something doesn't work so that we

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think something's missing so then we keep adding

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more shit and a hundred percent of the time a

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hundred percent of the time When I work with

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women we end up taking things away. I'm like

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you don't need six freebies You actually don't

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need three different offers. You don't need to

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be on five different platforms, like we subtract,

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I take things away, which is crazy because if

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you actually look at the coaching industry as

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an example, it's rooted in you are not enough,

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therefore you need this thing and here's this

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next program and this new identity and you have

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to work on this identity. So coming back to the

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identity piece, what I notice is that when there's

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a lack of coherence, I use this word a lot as

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well, is like coherence is when It's like a living,

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breathing, like things are working in harmony

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and things are connected in the way that they're

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meant to be. They're in the correct sequence,

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therefore they work. When there's a lack of coherence,

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and again, it comes back to women thinking it's

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not working and suddenly becomes personal. It's

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like, well, I must not be the woman who can hold

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it. I must be living more into the future version

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of me who has the money and the clients and so

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on. So then what happens is women will start,

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even though they think they're doing identity

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work and they're starting from within, they start

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building their business from the outside and

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they start borrowing language like, oh, I need

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to be more activated. I'm going to start talking

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like this or they start thinking, oh, look how

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that person made that $33 offer. I'm going to

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make a version of this and that's who I am now.

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And so there's a reaching in a borrowing from

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the outside and we think that's identity work

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because it's still rooted in pressure, need to

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get people to buy these things, I'm going to

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do X, Y, and Z. It's still rooted in momentum.

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I'm only successful if I'm consistently making

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sales. So everything is based on this reactionary

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experience of running a business where it's constantly

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looking for the instant external gratification.

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And that's not identity work. That is like...

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the effort to try and build infrastructure, but

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you're holding up walls that aren't yours, which

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is something that I'd mentioned to you earlier.

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Identity work is when you find things actually

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get a lot more quiet, something that I've been

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doing the last couple of months where I'm not

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announcing every single thing that I'm working

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on. I'm not trying to build hype to do a big

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launch to get people into a program. It's very

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much focused on, okay, How can I cultivate the

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coherence of my business? And if I have this

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offer, if I'm posting in this way, does it actually

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connect to the next process or the next journey

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of where my clients are going? How are my clients

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actually experiencing this specific funnel leading

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into this program? Like it's looking at the coherence

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of what it is that I'm building and it actually

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doesn't require any external noise or validation.

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But it's like a part of your ego dies because

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you realize that you're building in silence and

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there's no external, hey, you're doing great.

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Keep going. You have to trust yourself. Right.

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So that's where deep identity work comes in.

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And I hope that that was a really big explanation.

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But I think it's really important because there's

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so many layers where we can see ourselves operating

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from. No, that's so interesting. I love the word

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coherence. I can't say that I've ever used that,

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and I might start using it. So how many of these

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women that you work with come from corporate

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originally and are now starting entrepreneurs?

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And how fucked up are they because they're coming

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from a corporate background? So funny. I laugh

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from familiarity. It's like not a laugh of judgment.

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It is, uh -huh, I get that. I would say that

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100 % of the women that I work with will literally

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say themselves, like, I've been a terrible employee.

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I cannot be employable. Like, I just this doesn't

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fulfill me. Yes, I was good at being a teacher.

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Yes, I was good at being a VP. Yes, I was good

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at doing X, Y and Z. And it's like, I can't do

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that anymore. Like, there's something pulling

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me. There's a purpose inside of me. I can't fully

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articulate it. This is what I want to do. I don't

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know what it looks like. But I feel the fire

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like that. That's literally the women that I

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work with. And that's also a version of me as

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well. And so when you say fucked up from corporate,

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what I do notice is, this is the biggest thing,

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women who leave corporate to start a business

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are so caught up in the structure and the ecosystem

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that they may have not noticed within the corporate

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space and they associate the amount of effort

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and hard work that they're doing should produce

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results within a specific timeline. Yes. Right?

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So I'm going to get more specific with this,

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believe it or not. So in corporate, we show up,

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we do our job, we get a salary. There's a very

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clear description of when you do X, Y happens.

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Here's a promotion, here's a conversation, here's

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constantly being witnessed. This is me assuming

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that we're in person at this point and now we're

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working remotely. So you're in person, people

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see you every day, you have conversations. There's

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constant external feedback from the environment.

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But when what you don't realize is that there's

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an entire ecosystem within a corporation that

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is structured that when you do x you get y when

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you work you get money when you go into a business

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that ecosystem and structure literally does not

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exist so we have to build it that's why i talked

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about coherence because you have to build something

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coherent that's how businesses create corporations

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because they have coherence within their company

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it's not perfect obviously but it's stable because

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they can pay their employees and hire people.

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So you are your own employee to your business.

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So if there's no business structure, how are

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you going to get paid? Like that's really what

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it comes down to. So that's why I've done so

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much personal deconditioning from corporate and

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even over the last couple of years, where it's

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not about how much action I'm taking, it's about

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the action that I'm taking and whether or not

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it makes sense for what it is that I'm building.

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And the crazy thing is that you cannot outwork

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timing. That is the most painful truth of them

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all. You literally cannot outwork timing and

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I think that is the hardest pill to swallow as

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an entrepreneur and that's probably the biggest

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thing that women have to deal with when they

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leave corporate because it's like You know every

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six months you get a raise and after two years

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you get this and it's going to retirement and

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here's your 401k and it's like very dialed in

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but it's not like that business at least not

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in the beginning now. Oh my gosh, you're so right

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in that you can't outwork timing. And that's

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probably one of my biggest challenges in this

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last year. I mean, 20 plus years in a corporate

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structure and environment and consistency and

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a couple months into doing my own thing. And

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I'm like, why is this not taking off? Why am

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I not doing this? Why don't I have more business?

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And a solopreneur said to me, she's like, you

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just need to be. patient, like it's going to

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come, but it doesn't come in three months. She's

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like, you're doing the work, you're planting

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the seeds, like your garden takes time to grow.

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I was like, I'm not patient. So I'm still learning

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the timing piece of it, but you know, it's, I

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love the D conditioning, D programming. I love

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that because that has been core. When I went

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from a really big corporate organization to a

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much smaller, it was, it felt entrepreneurial,

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but there's still a structure and people and

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team and consistency to now this level. On my

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own, as we were joking at the beginning, you

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know, my own IT person, own whatever, it really

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does change you. And you do have to decondition

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from those structures and the confines that a

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lot of us grew up in and became used to. So let's

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switch gears a little bit. Let's talk about intuition.

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Tell me how we can best, hardest utilize our

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intuition in business. Yes, I love this question

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because obviously I feel like up until now I've

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been like, here's the structure and the masculinity

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of all of this, but then I can also swing so

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hard into the femininity of intuition. I think

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the biggest thing when people say, well, what

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is your intuition? How does this work? It really

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is prioritizing removing noise so that you can

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feel and hear the signal from your body. And

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what I mean by that is what I find is when there's

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too much noise happening, let's say for example,

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let's use a house as an example. So there's a

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lot of clutter. They've got things in the kitchen

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and there's chaos here and there. And it's like,

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you're not actually going to see the surface

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area of the space because it's covered. So if

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I were to ask you, how much surface area do you

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have in your house? You'd be like, I don't know,

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but there's a lot of shit everywhere. So when

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you look at clearing the noise, clearing the

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shit, then you can say, oh, here's the surface

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area of this counter. Here's the surface area

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of the couch. Here's the surface area of the

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dresser. And suddenly you can see the spaciousness

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and you can feel energetically how you can. walk

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into a room and your shoulders feel like they

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drop and you can just feel oh my god this smells

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so good or look how the light is coming through

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the window right now and you know the bed is

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made and things feel peaceful and calm so your

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intuition as much as you can try so hard to listen

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to your intuition be like what does my intuition

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have to say but if your environment physically

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or even mentally like you have too much on your

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mind and maybe you need a calendar to take things

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out of your head. If you really want to connect

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your intuition you have to create the space for

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it and that is so important because people say

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I want to connect to my intuition and immediately

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go to that but then it's like you got to create

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that again, literally it's the same conversation

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as earlier creating that ecosystem of your business

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around your business. You need to create that

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spaciousness around yourself for your intuition

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so that you can hear it and connect to it. And

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I think that this has been something that I've

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worked on the last couple of months. And like,

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if you're like, what does it mean? You know,

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obviously, we use the house metaphor. But if

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you're in the online space, for example, or even

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in corporate, it's like, how can you remove unnecessary

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noise that isn't actually helpful? Like I went

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on Instagram, I followed everyone on Instagram

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in the last couple of months. I also unsubscribed

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a lot from my email list. And I'm not listening

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to any other podcasts right now. I removed Instagram

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from my phone. I only go on my iPad. And it's

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like very intentional, like I'm posting these

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stories and doing X, Y and Z. So it's really

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simplifying. What input is coming in because

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the less input you have the more space you have

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the quieter It is the more you can hear and feel

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that little voice inside of you So that's kind

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of the first Process of how I would like create

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the structure for connecting to your intuition

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because some people are probably like I don't

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know if I'm connecting to my intuition But if

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they're all of a sudden they're like, oh my god,

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I have so much noise Yeah, get rid of the noise

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and then see what happens Oh, that's so true.

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And especially with our phones, right? Like we

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can't just sit. And I catch myself doing it.

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I could be like at a stoplight that I know it's

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going to be really long. Instead of just sitting

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there listening to the radio, doing whatever,

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I pick up my phone. I'm seeing if anybody texts.

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It's like, I'm sitting here for 20 seconds. Why

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can I not just sit? And I did that recently actually

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on the way back from yoga. So I already felt

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like I was like in a good spot. I'm like… I didn't

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turn on any music. My drive was like five minutes,

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but it was five minutes of complete silence,

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which at first was a little uncomfortable. even

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though it's by myself. But I try to do that more

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and more because there is, there's so much noise

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and we just never stop. We can't not be on our

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phones or have music playing or the TV in the

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background. And, and you're right. It's just

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so much constantly at us that there's, there's

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no time for that silence or quiet just to actually

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think. And I guess that's probably why people

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always would say about like good ideas coming

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in the shower or on a run, because you're like

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just. not focused on that. You're focusing on

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running or taking a shower. So I love the intuition

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piece and that makes sense. Are there any other

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tips like that to be able to like tie into your

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intuition more? Yeah, I think that when it comes

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to There's so many different ways you can connect

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with it, whether it's meditation or journaling

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or even just walking and like you said, not listening

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to music and seeing what comes up. I think there's

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even been times where in the last couple of weeks,

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I was in the kitchen, I was cooking and I wasn't

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listening to music. I was in the kitchen for

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like two hours in silence cooking. When the door

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is open, that's when things can drop in. I'll

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give you an example. I was sharing with you before

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we hit record that I went pretty fucking deep

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into feng shui in the last two months. I'm really

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excited about this. one of the the last couple

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weeks what we've had to do is you know lay the

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bagua map on our house figure out the directions

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get really clear on like what's supportive in

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each room that kind of thing and one of the other

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things we had to do was to do a clearing in the

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house so it was like i bought you know some smudge

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and some palo santo and i did like a salt cure

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in the corner like we're going full voodoo here

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and last night i spent an hour doing a Cleansing

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and a clearing of the house and I put on some

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like hurts binaural beats and I was before this

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I had set intention and I was like My intention

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for the home and just for my life this year is

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just to create and cultivate and hold more harmony.

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That's something that it just, hmm, harmony in

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relationships, harmony with money, harmony with

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business, that feels really fucking good. But

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there was still something there that wasn't fully

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landing. And I was like, okay, I'm just going

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to take this and run with this because this is

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what happens. Your intuition doesn't necessarily

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tell you. everything right away all at once.

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Sometimes it comes in pieces. So I'm like, okay,

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I'm gonna go, I'm gonna clear and cleanse the

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house and I'm going around with my smudge and

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like figure eights all over the place. And all

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of a sudden, one sentence drops in. Let it be

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easy. And I thought, oh shit, that's the sentence.

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It's not cultivating, create harmony, because

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then that is doing something. And I'm a doer.

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I'm like an over -functioning, high -achiever,

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freaky type A person. I will do shit until the

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cows come home. And when this dropped in and

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it was just, I'm in the middle of smudging, listening

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to my binaural beats, and it was like, let it

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be easy. And I actually got so emotional because

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I thought... Wow, I can see where I'd been trying

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to control things and clean this and do that

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and organize this. And then I thought, well,

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what do I do if I let it be easy? And I'm like,

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holy fuck, I have to take my hands off the steering

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wheel. So it was just like three little words.

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And that came straight from my intuition and

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I wasn't doing anything crazy. I'm not telling

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everyone you have to go clear your house and

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cleanse and whatever, but I am saying that you

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got to trust your intuition in layers. It's not

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always going to be a straight shot, but it's

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quiet and it will not be loud. That's the trick.

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Well, that's a great point, right? If someone

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is trying to declutter their brain and they feel

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like they're tapping into her intuition, how

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do they know they're doing it? I don't want to

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say right because there's no right way. But to

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your point, it's kind of that quiet. Like how

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do they just kind of extract that once they feel

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like they're doing that clearing out of their

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minds? Yeah, I think coming back to the coherence

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thing, like when those three words dropped in

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my head, let it be easy. It was like sliding,

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like the satisfaction of when you've done like

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a thousand piece puzzle and you go to sliding

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that last piece and it just fucking clicks and

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you're like zero explanation, zero proving energy.

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This is the truth. I don't care what anyone says

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or what anyone thinks like it's just pure and

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you can trust it but if it's something that comes

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to you and you're like Hmm, I don't know. What

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about this? What about that? And then you take

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it and you talk about it with three different

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people and they gave you four different perspectives

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and you're like Well, what if I did this? No,

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I'm not gonna do that anymore. I need to go do

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this So notice that there's like a restlessness

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there and it's it's it does take a level of trust

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of like, okay this clicked for me, what if I

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just left it and didn't touch it and I didn't

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need to go and tinker and fuck around and and

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put it here and put it there. This is what came

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through for me. What is it going to look like

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now if I just let it be and let it show up for

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me rather than than going and bringing in external

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noise because you don't trust yourself. So that's

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the thing is like I look for that very specific

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feeling of this feels like truth and I literally

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don't care what anyone else has to say about

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it. I love that. That's great. So we're at the

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beginning of the year still. And, you know, you

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mentioned that's your intention. How often are

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you setting intentions? Do you have a word of

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the year? Like, how do you sort of set those

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tones, I guess, for your year? Yeah, I let things

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unfurl, but I do set points that I like to come

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back to. And every December, I always record

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a podcast episode about, you know, choosing your

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gene keys for the year and your word of the year.

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And my word for this year is precision. And I

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love this word because I mean, again, it's not

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a sexy word. It kind of goes in with orientation

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and coherence and like the words that people

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don't typically use. But precision for me means

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if I'm going to be precise, then I can't entertain

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noise. I have to get to the point, right? And

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with precision, other mantras that came through,

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again, I guess, let it be easy is now one, but

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do less, say less. Like the things that I'm telling

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myself and holding the standards to are just

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smaller, but very intentional. And so that's

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my word of the year. My gene key of the year

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is a 60 second gene key. I know we didn't talk

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about gene keys today, but the gift of that gene

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key is precision. So it really is about, you

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know, what is it going to take to be precise?

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What do you need to take away to keep that simplicity?

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And I just find that Having those little anchors

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can be really helpful, whether it's a word, whether

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it's a gene key, whether it's something in astrology

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or whatever resonates with you in affirmation

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or if you have a very specific goal. It's whatever

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is going to anchor for you. When you create it

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and it feels coherent and you have that click

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and you don't feel like you have to justify or

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explain to anyone, that's when you know that

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that's your truth. That's how I love to choose.

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Usually I choose a word. and then I'll reflect

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on it in the December. I'm like, wow, so here's

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what I thought was going to happen, and then

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here's what actually happened, and it's a whole

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story, but it's really fun. Right. But I love

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that, but there's a theme. And what's so crazy

00:23:42.500 --> 00:23:44.220
is you're building a business, you're growing,

00:23:44.380 --> 00:23:47.619
but your theme is about simplifying and stop

00:23:47.619 --> 00:23:49.720
trying to do so much and being over the top.

00:23:49.859 --> 00:23:52.000
And I love that. And I actually saw somebody

00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:54.339
else on LinkedIn post that too, and with very

00:23:54.339 --> 00:23:57.059
similar rationalization. It's like, we get so

00:23:57.059 --> 00:24:00.579
overstimulated with our goals and to -do list

00:24:00.579 --> 00:24:02.940
and increasing revenue and just all the things

00:24:02.940 --> 00:24:05.420
we want to achieve that it just like, ah, it's

00:24:05.420 --> 00:24:07.819
like total chaos. So I love the fact of like

00:24:07.819 --> 00:24:10.509
just dialing it back, which I unfortunately went

00:24:10.509 --> 00:24:12.569
the other direction with my word this year, so

00:24:12.569 --> 00:24:17.410
I went with Ignite. Again, year two of a business

00:24:17.410 --> 00:24:19.930
of trying to get things moving. I wanted everything

00:24:19.930 --> 00:24:23.190
to come to fruition really this year and to ignite,

00:24:23.589 --> 00:24:25.769
so I'm kind of rethinking that, but it's all

00:24:25.769 --> 00:24:27.769
right. I'm going to go with it. It's the fire

00:24:27.769 --> 00:24:30.329
horse, so it all goes together. Yeah. No, I think

00:24:30.329 --> 00:24:33.180
go with it. Because sometimes, like, OK, last

00:24:33.180 --> 00:24:36.279
year, my word in 2025 was ascend. This is what

00:24:36.279 --> 00:24:37.720
came to me. And I was like, where the fuck? I

00:24:37.720 --> 00:24:39.200
was actually in charge of the key and I was playing

00:24:39.200 --> 00:24:41.660
with the gene keys, like doing my thing. And

00:24:41.660 --> 00:24:43.839
I was like, ascend? What the hell? And I thought

00:24:43.839 --> 00:24:45.660
this. Oh, I don't know if I like this because

00:24:45.660 --> 00:24:49.099
it felt very like pedestal like ascend. And I

00:24:49.099 --> 00:24:50.559
thought, no, I'm just going to sit with this.

00:24:50.720 --> 00:24:54.099
And I stuck with it the entire year. And by the

00:24:54.099 --> 00:24:56.519
end of the year, what happened was I realized

00:24:56.519 --> 00:24:59.579
I did have to rise above my shit. And there's

00:24:59.579 --> 00:25:01.269
so much that I had to let go. It was a snake

00:25:01.269 --> 00:25:02.829
year, right? Everything was shutting. I changed

00:25:02.829 --> 00:25:05.789
my software, my platforms. I let go of offers.

00:25:05.910 --> 00:25:08.009
I'm like, oh, that checks out. So it surprised

00:25:08.009 --> 00:25:11.410
me. So stick. If you like Ignite, stick with

00:25:11.410 --> 00:25:13.289
it and then see what happens. That's the fun

00:25:13.289 --> 00:25:16.369
part. That'll be fun. Yeah. I always try to do

00:25:16.369 --> 00:25:17.730
a word of the year and some years I'm like, well,

00:25:17.730 --> 00:25:21.470
that didn't quite work out. It's fine. So you

00:25:21.470 --> 00:25:23.549
mentioned Gene Keys and I think to this audience,

00:25:23.609 --> 00:25:25.769
this is probably a topic they don't know a lot

00:25:25.769 --> 00:25:28.990
about. So tell us what that is and how you utilize

00:25:28.990 --> 00:25:31.589
it. Yeah, I'll share like gene keys and human

00:25:31.589 --> 00:25:33.890
design like an overlay of this. So obviously

00:25:33.890 --> 00:25:35.569
I feel like everyone's heard of astrology. That's

00:25:35.569 --> 00:25:37.470
like the big thing that people are most familiar

00:25:37.470 --> 00:25:41.269
with. And so these systems, human design and

00:25:41.269 --> 00:25:42.769
gene keys are two different systems that they

00:25:42.769 --> 00:25:45.549
have crossover. So talk about human design first.

00:25:46.000 --> 00:25:48.400
When you get your birth information, so your

00:25:48.400 --> 00:25:50.480
date, time and location, you can literally go

00:25:50.480 --> 00:25:52.839
to Google and type in like human design chart

00:25:52.839 --> 00:25:54.299
and there'll be different platforms where you

00:25:54.299 --> 00:25:56.839
can put your information in. I like to use genetic

00:25:56.839 --> 00:25:59.059
matrix. So you put your birth information in

00:25:59.059 --> 00:26:00.460
and what you're going to see on the screen will

00:26:00.460 --> 00:26:02.759
be very confusing. I'm not going to lie. but

00:26:02.759 --> 00:26:04.680
you'll probably be very curious about it. You're

00:26:04.680 --> 00:26:06.819
gonna see a body graph, okay, and there's gonna

00:26:06.819 --> 00:26:09.220
be shapes, and there's gonna be channels connecting

00:26:09.220 --> 00:26:10.900
the shapes, there's gonna be a lot of numbers,

00:26:10.960 --> 00:26:13.180
you'll see information that'll say, you're a

00:26:13.180 --> 00:26:15.420
generator, you're a one -three, you're an emotional

00:26:15.420 --> 00:26:17.700
authority, there's gonna be information about

00:26:17.700 --> 00:26:21.299
what human design is. Human design is an energetic

00:26:21.299 --> 00:26:24.180
blueprint on how you're designed to show up and

00:26:24.180 --> 00:26:26.359
operate in your life or, for example, in your

00:26:26.359 --> 00:26:29.559
business. And so I use this as a tool with my

00:26:29.559 --> 00:26:32.380
clients so that when we go to build, their business.

00:26:32.500 --> 00:26:35.220
It's very specific to their energetic gifts and

00:26:35.220 --> 00:26:38.660
capacities. So it's an integrity and coherent

00:26:38.660 --> 00:26:43.519
with their being. Right. Now the gene keys is

00:26:43.519 --> 00:26:46.099
there's a component, there's the astrology component

00:26:46.099 --> 00:26:48.319
from human design that pulls over into the gene

00:26:48.319 --> 00:26:50.519
keys. And then the gene keys also has a system

00:26:50.519 --> 00:26:53.140
with human design. called the I Ching, and it

00:26:53.140 --> 00:26:55.839
comes from the Chinese divination text. And there's

00:26:55.839 --> 00:26:59.779
64 streams of consciousness, as we call it, 64

00:26:59.779 --> 00:27:03.500
numbers that represent very specific energetic

00:27:03.500 --> 00:27:06.440
experiences that we have as people. And so your

00:27:06.440 --> 00:27:09.680
gene keys, there's like... three different sequences

00:27:09.680 --> 00:27:13.039
that show your energetic experience of how you

00:27:13.039 --> 00:27:15.539
move through life. So human design gives you

00:27:15.539 --> 00:27:17.880
more of the, here's my strategy and how I make

00:27:17.880 --> 00:27:21.099
decisions. And Gene Keys is more of a contemplative,

00:27:21.460 --> 00:27:23.859
meditative experience of, oh my gosh, I can see

00:27:23.859 --> 00:27:26.240
how this specific energetic expression shows

00:27:26.240 --> 00:27:29.339
up in this area of life. And so it helps you

00:27:29.339 --> 00:27:32.299
see patterns. It helps you see triggers. It helps

00:27:32.299 --> 00:27:35.640
you see shadows. And then you can integrate this.

00:27:35.680 --> 00:27:38.039
So I love to use this as a tool as well with

00:27:38.039 --> 00:27:40.220
entrepreneurs in business. So obviously, we talked

00:27:40.220 --> 00:27:43.700
a lot about structure today, but I use a lot

00:27:43.700 --> 00:27:46.240
of energetics within the structure. And that

00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:48.299
creates the integrity for people to be aligned

00:27:48.299 --> 00:27:50.180
with themselves and how they move through their

00:27:50.180 --> 00:27:53.569
life and their business. I love that. And, you

00:27:53.569 --> 00:27:55.230
know, it's funny, for those of us who grew up

00:27:55.230 --> 00:27:57.829
in a professional corporate world, you take 800

00:27:57.829 --> 00:28:00.069
assessments, right, from like Strengthfinder

00:28:00.069 --> 00:28:03.809
and Predictive Index and Disc and all that stuff.

00:28:04.430 --> 00:28:07.089
And that information's good to kind of help to

00:28:07.089 --> 00:28:09.049
know how you operate. But this is a different

00:28:09.049 --> 00:28:11.029
perspective and level, and I got to find out

00:28:11.029 --> 00:28:13.720
what time I'm born so I can do this. I asked

00:28:13.720 --> 00:28:16.400
my mom the other week. One thing I want to say,

00:28:16.579 --> 00:28:18.539
what you just said is so important. I actually

00:28:18.539 --> 00:28:20.460
recorded a podcast episode. I think I'm going

00:28:20.460 --> 00:28:22.180
to find it and we can put it in the show notes

00:28:22.180 --> 00:28:23.559
for you because there's probably a lot of corporate

00:28:23.559 --> 00:28:25.740
women who are like, yeah, I know disc. I know

00:28:25.740 --> 00:28:27.819
the enneagram. I know this. You do all these

00:28:27.819 --> 00:28:30.440
tests. Human design and genki's are not a personality

00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:33.579
test. It's like your energetic expression since

00:28:33.579 --> 00:28:36.000
the moment you were born. That's the difference.

00:28:36.359 --> 00:28:39.259
However, what I find is really, really interesting

00:28:39.259 --> 00:28:42.259
is that Those personality tests, they're based

00:28:42.259 --> 00:28:44.420
on your behavior and your motivation, so they

00:28:44.420 --> 00:28:47.039
can change. I used to be an ENFJ, and now I'm

00:28:47.039 --> 00:28:49.359
an INFJ. Like, why did that happen? I don't know

00:28:49.359 --> 00:28:51.559
why that happened. I mean, I can speculate. But

00:28:51.559 --> 00:28:53.900
with human design, it doesn't change, and your

00:28:53.900 --> 00:28:55.980
gene keys don't change. Yes, there's transits,

00:28:55.980 --> 00:28:57.819
like you hear in astrology, oh, we're in Pisces

00:28:57.819 --> 00:29:00.279
season, or we're in Aries season. There are those

00:29:00.279 --> 00:29:03.400
influences, but your core remains the same. So

00:29:03.400 --> 00:29:05.940
I just wanted to share that because it's actually

00:29:05.940 --> 00:29:07.960
really cool to leverage. You can leverage human

00:29:07.960 --> 00:29:10.619
design, especially in corporate, which is really

00:29:10.619 --> 00:29:12.519
awesome. So anyways, that'll be like an additional

00:29:12.519 --> 00:29:14.759
nugget. That goes back to just understanding

00:29:14.759 --> 00:29:16.640
who you are and how you operate. And we all have

00:29:16.640 --> 00:29:19.019
our strengths and leaning into that versus trying

00:29:19.019 --> 00:29:22.420
to be someone or act totally different than you

00:29:22.420 --> 00:29:23.900
are. So I think that's where people get hung

00:29:23.900 --> 00:29:26.700
up on like, I've seen people be upset about like,

00:29:26.700 --> 00:29:28.700
you know, their disc assessments, like, no, it's

00:29:28.700 --> 00:29:30.819
okay. Hey, like it's who you are, it's your strengths.

00:29:30.920 --> 00:29:33.420
Like let's lean into that. This isn't like, oh,

00:29:33.480 --> 00:29:35.619
you have to be this to be in what position or

00:29:35.619 --> 00:29:38.019
whatever it is. So I love stuff that gives you

00:29:38.019 --> 00:29:40.400
insight on who you are and how you operate. And

00:29:40.400 --> 00:29:43.380
then just using that to, I don't know, be better

00:29:43.380 --> 00:29:45.140
essentially, or at least understand what the

00:29:45.140 --> 00:29:46.980
hell you're thinking about or why you're thinking.

00:29:47.710 --> 00:29:50.309
So is there anything else that as you've worked

00:29:50.309 --> 00:29:52.529
with these women through the last 7 -10 years

00:29:52.529 --> 00:29:55.509
that you see women get tripped on that if you

00:29:55.509 --> 00:29:57.210
think they pay a little bit more attention to,

00:29:57.369 --> 00:30:00.430
they would be able to make an impact and be better?

00:30:01.269 --> 00:30:04.329
Yes. I think this is actually kind of like a

00:30:04.329 --> 00:30:06.910
loaded thing to share. I, and I've been there

00:30:06.910 --> 00:30:08.829
like so many times where I felt like a victim

00:30:08.829 --> 00:30:11.529
and I was fucking pissed. Like, why is this taking

00:30:11.529 --> 00:30:14.470
so long? I've spent this money. I'm holding debt.

00:30:14.529 --> 00:30:16.210
I want to pay this off. I want to move forward.

00:30:16.250 --> 00:30:18.410
I'm doing everything. And I get really righteous

00:30:18.410 --> 00:30:20.410
about how things are going. And I think you can

00:30:20.410 --> 00:30:22.069
relate to this in corporate too. It's like, I

00:30:22.069 --> 00:30:23.710
broke my ass off. Where's the promotion? Very

00:30:23.710 --> 00:30:28.069
similar. And I think that when, especially as

00:30:28.069 --> 00:30:31.210
entrepreneurs or even in corporate too, when

00:30:31.210 --> 00:30:34.730
we put that pressure on, I need this to work

00:30:34.730 --> 00:30:38.619
and Once this works, then I will relieve X, Y

00:30:38.619 --> 00:30:42.700
and Z like retroactively. The hard truth to swallow

00:30:42.700 --> 00:30:45.019
is that there is an avoidance of responsibility

00:30:45.019 --> 00:30:48.599
that's not being looked at. So when I've looked

00:30:48.599 --> 00:30:50.799
at, let's say financially, if I had certain goals

00:30:50.799 --> 00:30:52.240
in my business where I'm like, I want to make

00:30:52.240 --> 00:30:54.279
X a month, I want to do X, Y and Z because then

00:30:54.279 --> 00:30:56.740
I can do A, B and C and that doesn't happen.

00:30:57.240 --> 00:30:58.960
If I actually look at A, B and C, it's like,

00:30:59.039 --> 00:31:01.160
well, Kayla, how can you better manage your finances?

00:31:01.519 --> 00:31:04.180
Like budget sheet this, learn about this conversation

00:31:04.180 --> 00:31:08.069
here. how can you actually look at the things

00:31:08.069 --> 00:31:10.950
that you can control, instead of thinking once

00:31:10.950 --> 00:31:14.069
you achieve X, Y, and Z, that's going to neutralize

00:31:14.069 --> 00:31:16.730
A, B, and C. That's not how it works. So there's

00:31:16.730 --> 00:31:19.529
always the irony is that there's actually always

00:31:19.529 --> 00:31:23.450
more that we can control. But sometimes we avoid

00:31:23.450 --> 00:31:25.869
looking at the thing because we just want the

00:31:25.869 --> 00:31:28.380
easy way out. And that's like, literally such

00:31:28.380 --> 00:31:30.359
a hard pill to swallow. I say that with compassion.

00:31:30.480 --> 00:31:33.460
I do it. I've done it. It's very human. But I

00:31:33.460 --> 00:31:35.019
think that that's something is like, where am

00:31:35.019 --> 00:31:37.059
I not looking that I'm avoiding that would actually

00:31:37.059 --> 00:31:39.160
make a difference now rather than waiting for

00:31:39.160 --> 00:31:41.000
this other thing to show up where I can't control

00:31:41.000 --> 00:31:43.440
the timing. Oh, that's so true. And it's funny

00:31:43.440 --> 00:31:45.539
you mentioned corporate. I think of that about

00:31:45.539 --> 00:31:48.000
women that I know who are stuck in corporate

00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:50.359
and they say they want to get out. They kind

00:31:50.359 --> 00:31:53.019
of sort of have a plan. But the things that they

00:31:53.019 --> 00:31:55.880
really need to do to be able to get out, they

00:31:55.880 --> 00:31:58.529
won't address. So it's like, do you really want

00:31:58.529 --> 00:32:01.289
out? Like, you know, the way it's not easy, not

00:32:01.289 --> 00:32:03.430
claiming that it's easy, but you just get stuck

00:32:03.430 --> 00:32:06.109
in and just kind of in that rut of well, I'm

00:32:06.109 --> 00:32:07.490
doing this, I'm just going to keep going until

00:32:07.490 --> 00:32:09.190
maybe something dramatic changes. Maybe it's

00:32:09.190 --> 00:32:12.210
not their decision to leave. So it's just interesting

00:32:12.210 --> 00:32:16.069
to understand that. Well, this is awesome. This

00:32:16.069 --> 00:32:19.049
has been super insightful. And we'll put everything

00:32:19.049 --> 00:32:21.730
from links in the show notes. But where's the

00:32:21.730 --> 00:32:24.710
quickest way to find out more about you and connect

00:32:24.710 --> 00:32:27.799
with you? You can find me on Instagram at Kayla

00:32:27.799 --> 00:32:31.380
G Mike podcast built for the edge. And we had

00:32:31.380 --> 00:32:33.099
a beautiful conversation on their bed seat, which

00:32:33.099 --> 00:32:35.200
I'm really excited to be sharing with everyone.

00:32:35.519 --> 00:32:37.180
I'm going to add, I can't remember the name of

00:32:37.180 --> 00:32:39.000
the episode off the top of my head, but the one

00:32:39.000 --> 00:32:41.579
that compares human design against, you know,

00:32:41.609 --> 00:32:43.910
the strength finders desk like awesome put that

00:32:43.910 --> 00:32:45.769
as an additional resource in the show notes.

00:32:46.089 --> 00:32:48.089
And I want to share another resource. This is

00:32:48.089 --> 00:32:51.430
called your business reoriented. So whether you're

00:32:51.430 --> 00:32:53.289
an entrepreneur or you're in corporate, this

00:32:53.289 --> 00:32:56.190
is there's these are five select podcast episodes

00:32:56.190 --> 00:32:58.869
from my channel that are really going to compliment

00:32:58.869 --> 00:33:00.849
the conversation we had today where what it looks

00:33:00.849 --> 00:33:03.670
like to orient yourself to create coherence,

00:33:03.710 --> 00:33:05.930
leveraging your human design and gene keys. So

00:33:05.930 --> 00:33:08.309
it's not just here's what Kayla did to do X,

00:33:08.309 --> 00:33:10.849
Y and Z and you do it too. It's very much How

00:33:10.849 --> 00:33:13.369
does this show up for you? Where are you standing?

00:33:13.950 --> 00:33:17.269
What needs to shift so that you can move forward

00:33:17.269 --> 00:33:19.470
and regulate your nervous system and build what

00:33:19.470 --> 00:33:21.329
it is that you want to build? So that will also

00:33:21.329 --> 00:33:23.589
be in the show notes as a gift for everyone.

00:33:24.569 --> 00:33:26.569
Awesome. Kayla, thank you so much for being here.

00:33:27.130 --> 00:33:29.630
Thank you, everyone. Kayla is the kind of guest

00:33:29.630 --> 00:33:31.609
that makes you want to close your laptop, take

00:33:31.609 --> 00:33:33.789
a breath and immediately delete three things

00:33:33.789 --> 00:33:37.400
off your to do list in the best way. If you want

00:33:37.400 --> 00:33:39.160
to connect with Kayla, I'm linking all of her

00:33:39.160 --> 00:33:41.240
info in the show notes. And if human design and

00:33:41.240 --> 00:33:44.279
G keys made you curious, start there. Don't overthink

00:33:44.279 --> 00:33:47.259
it. That's literally the point. And if you're

00:33:47.259 --> 00:33:49.039
a listener who's building confidence, presence,

00:33:49.059 --> 00:33:51.759
and a stronger leadership identity in real time,

00:33:52.119 --> 00:33:54.079
make sure you're following Loud and Lifted on

00:33:54.079 --> 00:33:56.160
Instagram and share this with a friend who's

00:33:56.160 --> 00:33:58.539
been feeling a little scattered lately. We all

00:33:58.539 --> 00:34:01.619
need the do less, say less reminder sometimes.

00:34:02.220 --> 00:34:04.700
Until next time, stay loud and stay lifted.