Quick Lift: Stop Spinning—Orientation, Coherence & Precision

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Welcome to loud and lifted quick lift, where

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we take a full episode and boil it down to the

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key takeaways with action items. If you are a

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solopreneur and if you've been feeling like you're

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doing all the things, but the results aren't

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matching the effort, then this episode is for

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you. Caleb brought the kind of truth that feels

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like a deep exhale and a gentle slap at the same

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time. This episode brought a fresh perspective

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and a new vibe, which I loved. So let's get into

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it. Takeaway number one, your orientation is

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important. Kayla introduced the idea of orientation,

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basically where you're standing when you look

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at the problem. Because so many of us do this,

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and especially high -performing women, if something

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isn't working, we think, it's me. It's my messaging.

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I need to try harder. I need to work more. I

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need to put more out there. And the biggest blind

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spot that women have is that they don't realize

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where they're standing when they look at the

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problem of their business. So how can you solve

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it? I mean, how often have you heard someone

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say, oh, I'm too close. I don't have a good perspective.

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This is orientation. So instead, orientation

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says, step back and look at the full ecosystem.

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Understand what's your offer? What's the sequence?

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What happens after someone says yes to your services?

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Is that system coherent, or is it chaos just

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wearing a cute outfit? Kayla talked a lot about

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from a solopreneur perspective, because when

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you're building everything by yourself, it's

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very difficult. Trust me, I get that. I have

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been living that the last year. I've realized

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that this can also happen in a corporate situation.

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This isn't just for solopreneurs. If your team

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isn't responding, you assume you're the problem

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or something else is going on when it might be

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the priorities. It might be the clarity or generally

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the system. Action item this week is a quick

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orientation reset. Before you fix anything, think

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about What am I assuming the problem is? What

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else could it be? And if this wasn't so personal

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and so close, what would I adjust first? Takeaway

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number two, coherence comes from subtraction,

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not more hustle. OK, this part I wanted to stand

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up and clap because I felt this. This has been

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me in the last year. She said with women she

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works with, the answer is almost always taking

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things away. Not adding more, not doing more,

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not putting more messaging out there, not launching

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another offer, not joining another program, being

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on five platforms. It's subtraction. It makes

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so much sense. We try to have so many priorities

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and so many things going on, we can't do anything

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well, and we're everywhere just very thinly.

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She calls this coherence, when things work in

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harmony, in the right sequence, and the system

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is connected in the way that it's meant to be.

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This is just about the quality of being logical

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and consistent. And she made a huge point about

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why this gets especially messy for women who

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are leaving corporate. In corporate, the ecosystems

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exist. You do X, you get Y. You get paid, you

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get promoted, there's a structure. In entrepreneurship,

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you have to build the ecosystem and the stability

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yourself. Action item this week is the subtraction

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challenge. Pick one area of your work or life

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and remove one layer. What's one meaning that

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doesn't need to exist? Or one platform that you're

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using that you're just not able to get any kind

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of traction on? Or what's one nice -to -have

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project that's muddying up the real priority?

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One habit you're over -explaining. Then ask,

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does this create more calm and follow through

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or more anxiety? Look at the data that you have

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and make a decision. But more isn't always better.

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Often it is less is more and less is better.

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Takeaway number three intuition needs space and

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precision keeps it clean Kayla's take on intuition

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was so practical. I loved it We talk about women

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having this intuition and we do it's true But

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if you want to connect to your intuition you

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have to create space for it She said you can

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try to listen to your intuition all day long,

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but if your environment is noisy Physically or

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mentally you won't hear it You have to create

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the space for intuition. And she gave some real

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examples that she has done recently with reducing

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her input, unfollowing accounts, unsubscribing

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from emails, not consuming a bunch of social

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media, not doom scrolling, removing Instagram

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from her phone, because less input equals more

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space and clearer signals. And this is so true.

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We are all going. thousand miles per hour between

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work and professional things and personal situations

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and taking care of our family that we don't ever

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just leave space for quiet and this is really

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hard and I mentioned on the episode that sometimes

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I'll be coming home from yoga where I already

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have a good headspace and I won't listen to the

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radio and this sounds so dumb But being in your

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car and having to be quiet is sometimes kind

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of awkward. And it forces me to just chill and

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sit. And I don't look at my phone. I don't look

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at the text messages I missed for the hour that

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I was there. But it just gives me a little bit

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longer time to disconnect and think. I mean,

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this goes back to why so many people talk about

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having great ideas when they're in the shower

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or when they go for a run, because you're disconnecting

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from everything that's going on around you. So

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figure out a way that you can create space. And

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maybe it's first thing in the morning. when you

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wake up, you sit there for five minutes in silence.

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I try meditating, it's really hard for me to

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turn my brain off, but at least if I have to

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sit there in silence, it helps me to really just

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create that space. The other thing that Kayla

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talked about is precision. And precision isn't

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doing more, it's doing more of what matters and

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cutting what doesn't. And I love the Her Word

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of the Year's precision and the mantra of say

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less, do less. Because again, we're constantly

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trying to be engaged and overstimulated all the

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time. And if you want to be creative, you want

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to be innovative, you need that space. And even

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the fact of think about how if you're sitting

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somewhere and you have a few minutes or even

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in your car at a light and you pick up your freaking

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phone to quickly scroll Instagram to check your

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email to respond to a text, we can't ever just

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be still. So start your day with a quiet or use

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the time in the car with your quiet. Figure out

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where quiet and space fits into your day, but

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make that part of your routine. One line that

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Kayla said that stuck with me is that precision

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means you can't entertain the noise. You have

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to get to the point. Do less, say less. And I

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think that's such a leadership lesson, not just

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a business one. When we're scattered, we talk

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more, explain more, we agree more, and we wonder

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why we're exhausted. Precision is a boundary.

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It's clarity, and it's self -trust. I love her

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quote that says, truth feels like this is it,

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and I literally don't care what anyone else has

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to say about it. She's creating those boundaries

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and being focused and having that precision.

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So they actually end this week and this might

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be one of the toughest ones we've had in a while

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is the quiet experiment. So choose one, choose

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a few, unfollow accounts, unsubscribe from emails,

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stay off of social media. Put your phone down.

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Remove an app. Sit in your silence in the car.

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Sit in your silence in the morning. But figure

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out what you can start to do. And do it for a

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couple of days in a row. Not just one time for

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five minutes. Make this part of your routine

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for an entire week and see how it feels. And

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at the end, ask yourself, what decisions feel

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clearer now? Or what do I know that I have been

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negotiating with? Or what great problem solving

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opportunity did I have? Or creative new thing

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that I came up with? So here's a quick lift recap.

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Orientation is stepping back. Don't assume the

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problem is you. Coherence is the answer is often

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subtraction. Make it simpler and sequenced. And

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intuition and precision. Clear the noise so you

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can hear the signal. Think about this. Everything

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that we just talked about is taking away. It's

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not adding more to your day. It's taking away

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and getting focused and prioritized and being

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able to focus on what you need to. Much better.

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If this episode hit for you, share it with the

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woman who's been carrying too much and calling

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it ambition. If you haven't listened to Kayla's

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full episode, I strongly encourage you to do

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so. And as always, keep showing up like you mean

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it and don't forget to lift others along the

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way.