Quick Lift: Living True, Moving Strong, Aging Boldly for Women in Leadership

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Welcome to Allowed and Lifted. I'm your host,

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Betsy Hamm. And today's quick lift is all about

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three powerful words, active, ageless, and authentic.

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In my recent conversation with Patti Sibach and

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Kathy Anderson -Martin, they shared what they

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call the triple threat. And it's not about doing

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it all. It's about living true, moving with purpose,

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and thriving at every stage of life. They reminded

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us that you can't pour from an empty cup. That

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health and wellness fuel Everything else and

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that age is never a limit. It's just a number

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So in this quick lift, I'll break down the biggest

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lessons and give you practical ways to apply

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them right now Let's dig into the key takeaways

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and action items first up authentic Kathy gave

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the definition of authentic as true to oneself,

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your values and your personality. I think it's

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great to revisit this definition because it's

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a word we throw around a lot. And at the end

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of the day, it's about being true to who you

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are. We try to be so many things to so many people.

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We try to be these amazing moms and wives and

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coworkers and friends and daughters and the list

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goes on. So sometimes we kind of forget who we

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are and what we really need to be focused on

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because it's difficult to be all things to all

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people. You need to be true to yourself. So sometimes

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we need to take a step back and reprioritize.

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Now, I do love that they made the point that

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being true to yourself doesn't mean that you

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don't be respectful to what other people feel.

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need. So it's a balance. And I joked like, yeah,

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can I just go on a two month vacation and you

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know, leave my job and my family and just because

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I need to recenter, that'd be amazing. But that

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would not be respectful to others. Patty was

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very authentic. And she shared a story about

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when she was 40, she felt like a failure. And

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none of her cups were full because she was trying

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to balance work and kids and life and a failed

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marriage. And she had to take a step back and

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put what was most important first, which was

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her kids. So she had to reshift she had to focus.

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And the biggest thing is, in addition to refocusing,

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she had to give herself grace. This is something

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I think we need to remind ourselves of time and

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time again. We hold ourselves to such high standards

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and want to be so amazing. And sometimes you

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just have to give yourself grace. We're going

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to have those rough days, rough weeks, maybe

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even a rough month where we're struggling. So

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you have to give yourself grace and know that

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you can reprioritize and move on. I also love

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that Kathy talked about majoring on the majors

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and letting go of the small stuff. That's so

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true. We are all guilty of that at times where

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we're trying to do all things for all people.

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And it's just taking a step back and focusing

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on what's really, really important and letting

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go of the small stuff. And as we've discussed

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on other episodes, whether that's outsourcing,

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getting help, or just not making cookies for

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the bake sale, it's going to be okay. Action

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item here is identify your true priorities this

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season. As I mentioned, your priorities are going

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to change throughout your life. Ask what is really

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important and what is just noise. And as a reminder,

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being true to yourself doesn't mean ignoring

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how choices affect loved ones. And lastly, practice

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grace. Next up, action. If you don't have a healthy

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body mind and spirit, you can't be authentic

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It's hard to be authentic or confident when you're

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miserable in your own skin Cathy shared her story

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of getting healthy and how everything changed

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when her health changed She started focusing

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on being better being physically active Patty

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gave a great analogy of you're given one body.

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You have to take care of it just like a car.

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Imagine if you only had one car your entire life

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that was supposed to get you around. You'd probably

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take better care of it, right? And you have to

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look at that same way with your body. We have

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one body. So think about how you can take better

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care of it. And that comes into being physically

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active, what we eat, and just how those things

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impact stress on our lives and also how you treat

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yourself. We talked a lot about healthy habits

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and making it sustainable. Patty and Kathy were

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not here to peddle some amazing diet or tell

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you to go to the gym seven days a week or restrict

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your calories to an insane level. It's just making

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good choices and making them a habit and making

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it something that can be sustainable. They talked

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about their giving wellness program that they

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launched which I love and Kathy shared how part

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of her journey to being healthier is starting

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to do 10 ,000 steps years ago and she has this

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amazing record of getting her 10 ,000 steps in

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a day. It's become her stress reliever and she

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enjoys being outside. So it's really about finding

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your thing. Maybe it's going on walks like Kathy

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talked about. Maybe it's going to the gym and

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just walking on a treadmill starting to lift

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weights. It's just finding the thing that you

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do enjoy spending time doing because it doesn't

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become a chore. becomes part of your habit. They

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also talked about finding your why and those

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reasons change over time. At the end of the day,

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it's about being healthy. Maybe it's because

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you do need to lose some weight. Maybe you need

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to get your blood pressure or cholesterol level

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down. Maybe it's because you want to be a great

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example for your kids. And I think that's an

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awesome point. And something I've certainly considered

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through the years is as I shared on the episode,

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I enjoy working out. I think it's a great stress

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reliever, whether it's yoga or going to the gym.

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Back in the day, I used to run a lot, but it's

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finding something that I spend time doing that

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makes me feel better. and I hope that my girls

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notice that. Now, of course, they're in sports

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mode, so working out isn't on their list if it's

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not related to sports, but I hope they start

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to see that, you know, oh, when I was growing

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up, my mom always did take time to go to the

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gym, go to yoga, and to focus on being healthy.

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It's not just about losing weight. Yes, sometimes

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that's a great benefit, but it's about being

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healthy. I also love that they said, it's never

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too late. It's just about movement. So think

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about what you like to do and start spending

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time doing that. And if you don't know how to

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start, consult a professional and I do not mean

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on TikTok. Find somebody locally where you live

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and then work with them to set realistic goals,

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small attainable goals, and just start taking

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steps forward. It's just progress. Action item

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here, find your why, let it evolve, pick one

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movement that you love, whether it's walking,

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lifting, dancing, yoga, start small and keep

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it sustainable. And as mentioned, consult a pro

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if needed. The last piece, ageless. I love when

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they got very excited about the fact that they

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love celebrating birthdays because we aren't

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dead. And while we were joking about it, It's

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true. And I think as we go through our lives,

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sometimes we hit these milestone birthdays that

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we're super excited about, you know, 18, 21.

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And then as we keep having those birthdays, we

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sometimes are like, Oh my God, I can't believe

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I'm 40. I can't believe I'm 50. And we have to

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flip the script on that and be thankful that

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we're celebrating those birthdays. And of course

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we want to continue to celebrate birthdays. So

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we're not dead. And while you're doing that,

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you want to have a good lifestyle. And that goes

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back to being active. I also love that they talked

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about part of being ageless is that there's still

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opportunity. They have friends who are thinking

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about retirement, retiring, getting their plan.

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And these two ladies, they have like the pedal

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down and they are continuing to move forward,

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making career changes, making reasonable choices

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of things that they want to do, spending time

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on the stuff that they love. And that's so awesome.

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I love that. they have this almost like second

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act from a professional standpoint that they

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both have been doing and coincidentally both

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of them are helping other people which is pretty

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awesome too. I love that they said they don't

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want to slow down and that's obviously clear

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from the way that they are handling the last

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couple years. The other pieces we talked about

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with ageless is having a sense of humor and being

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able to laugh at yourself is important. Not sweating

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the small stuff. Sometimes you just have to move

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on. The other piece that they talked about, which

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I think is great, it's okay to be down, just

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don't stay there. And in order to not stay there,

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sometimes you can pick yourself up on your own

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and that's great. But sometimes you need those

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supportive friends. And Patty talked about how

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it took her a really long time to find her tribe.

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She always had friends, but they just weren't

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the people who maybe had the same values and

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beliefs and way of life that she did. But now

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she has found her tribe. So she said, find your

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tribe, it's out there. Find people who will cheer

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for you and maybe even smack you when you need

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it. Let's be honest, sometimes that's what we

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also need too. The last thing we talked about

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with ageless is perspective. Often it's not life

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shattering the things that you're stressing about.

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So take a step back and think about what can

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you control and what can you not and what really

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is going to have a major impact on moving forward.

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There's going to be times in life where things

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don't go your way. There's going to be moments

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and it's not if it's when it happens to everybody,

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right? Sometimes big, sometimes small, but things

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are going to happen. So get through it, get the

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support that you need and move on. Action item

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here, find your tribe, people who cheer you on

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and hold you accountable. Embrace the change

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and keep learning. Age is a number, not a limit.

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And when hard moments hit, because they will.

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Don't stay stuck. I love how Patty and Kathy

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show us that being authentic means focusing on

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what truly matters. Being active means caring

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for your body and mind so you can show up fully.

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And being ageless means refusing to let your

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years define you. If you haven't listened to

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Kathy and Patty's episode, I strongly encourage

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you to do so. And as always follow Loud and Lifted

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on Instagram for ongoing advice and leadership

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guidance. Thanks for tuning in to Loud and Lifted.

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Until next time, keep showing up authentic. brilliant

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and unstoppable.