Quick Lift Olympic Gold Mindset for Women in Leadership: Pressure, Confidence & Comparison

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What if I told you an Olympic gold medalist still

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hears the same thoughts we do? I don't deserve

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to be here. What if I mess this up? Everyone

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is watching. Today's quick lift is Olympic level

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mindset training from Charlotte Worthington,

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BMX freestyle Olympic gold medalist. Because

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the way she handles fear, pressure, comparison

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and expectations is exactly what we need for

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our work day. Welcome to Loud and Lifted Quick

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Lift, the under 10 minute episode where we turn

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big insights into small, repeatable moves you

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can actually use this week. I'm your host Betsy

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Hamm. Today, we're pulling the most actionable

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lessons from my conversation with Charlotte Worthington,

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and you do not need a BMX bike to use these.

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Thank goodness. You just need a moment that matters.

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Let's get into it. Takeaway number one. Opportunity

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isn't luck, it's a decision. Charlotte shared

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something wild. She had been riding BMX for only

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about a year when this massive opportunity showed

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up. She got noticed and suddenly there was a

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real path where she thought, wait. There's a

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chance here. I can go somewhere with this sport."

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Now, she was super clear. Yes, the stars aligned.

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And the timing was there. But then she had to

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work her ass off. And she said yes to this path

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before she probably felt completely confident

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or even actually know where it was going to head.

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Sometimes opportunity arrives before the confidence

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does. Your job isn't to feel ready. Your job

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is to respond like a pro and capitalize on the

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opportunity and then work your ass off. Action

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item, the opportunity contract. So write this

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down. If there's an opportunity in front of you

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that you just haven't been sure if you should

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pursue, write it down. And then say how you're

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going to honor it. What are you going to do?

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And then choose one behavior over the next seven

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days that would help you move this forward. One

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small behavior, one big identity shift. Take

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away number two. Pressure is practice and you

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can train your thoughts. Charlotte said something

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I love, people don't realize you can practice

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your thought process for high pressure and her

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case even dangerous situations. That's not just

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for mentally tough people. Her visualization

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isn't just see the run, it's predicting what

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the thoughts will be when how they're going to

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show up. I'm going to feel like I don't deserve

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to be here. I'm going to feel like I'm going

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to mess up. Everyone's intimidating. I'm going

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to overthink everything." She said those thoughts

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might appear and that's normal. The key is planning

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to how you respond and that's the training. She

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said she uses tools like breathing and getting

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present and visualization. She visualizes the

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moment and she predicts the thoughts and feelings

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that will show up. during that moment, because

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those thoughts are going to appear whether you

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invited them or not. So action item here is have

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a thought rehearsal. Pick one upcoming moment

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this week. Maybe it's a tough conversation, a

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presentation, a negotiation, a big meeting. And

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think about it. The moment is a tough conversation

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with one of my employees. The thoughts I expect

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to show up are, I'm nervous. She's going to get

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mad at me. Whatever those thoughts are, write

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them down. And then have your response plan.

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Maybe it's the breathwork, maybe it's a truth

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statement, and also it's being prepared before

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you get to that point. Because the goal isn't

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going to be to eliminate the nerves. The goal

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is to respond well. The nerves are going to be

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there. Takeaway number three, non -attachment

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to the outcome creates calm. Charlotte talked

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about going into the Olympics, her first Olympics,

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with the mindset that she was fully prepared

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to walk away with nothing because for her the

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win was that she was there she was even at the

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Olympics that's called non -attachment and it's

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not I don't care it's I care a lot but I'm not

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gonna let the results hijack my performance or

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even the experience of being there she said so

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much of her sport is out of her control and this

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allowed her to be present take the risk stay

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calm and just enjoy the moment Action item there's

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things you can control and there's things you

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can't control right before that big moment So

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whatever that big moment is maybe it's an important

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meeting that's coming up right down. What's in

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your control? It's preparation your tone your

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clarity how you listen how you ask how you show

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up What's not in your control is other people's

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reactions the final decision the room's mood

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So, pick a process goal, be clear, stay curious,

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don't rush, ask for the next step. And when you

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stop gripping to the outcome, you get your brain

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back. Takeaway number four, the expectation trap

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after success. Then Charlotte shared after her

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first Olympics where she really didn't have expectations

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and she walked away with a gold medal. She went

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to her next Olympics where there was this huge

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expectation. After she went one gold, everything

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flipped upside down for her. Now she had this

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immense pressure that I'm the Olympic gold medalist.

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I have to defend my medal and she had to be the

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best in the room. Everybody was literally gunning

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for her. She said that mindset maybe can push

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you short term, but it's not sustainable and

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it's not enjoyable. She said she had the worst

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experience at that Olympics and she felt like

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she lost herself. This can happen to us professionally

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as well when you get to a certain level and you

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feel like all eyes are on you because of your

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title or the expectation. So take a moment if

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this is your case and think about that expectation

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that you feel like you're carrying. And if you

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started with a blank slate, what would you focus

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on? So instead of I must be the best, choose

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I'll be prepared and adaptable. And instead of

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I can't mess up, choose I will stay present and

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learn fast. You don't owe anyone a repeat performance

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of your greatest hits. And the last key takeaway

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and my absolute favorite is swap comparison for

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admiration. Charlotte admitted she was a lone

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wolf for a long time, totally comfortable doing

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her own solo thing. And then post -Tokyo, everything

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shifted. There was more tension. There was more

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expectations. She had to be a role model now.

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There was more people involved. And suddenly,

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team wasn't optional. And she hit the honesty

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bomb in an individual sport. You get stuck in

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this ego trap of thinking, if I help them, I'm

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making my own job harder. And in the leadership

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version, professionally, it's if I lift her up,

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it makes me look smaller. That mindset fuels

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comparison, especially between women, and it's

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exhausting. So she built a practice that changed

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everything for her. Swap comparison for admiration.

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Not stop comparing. Your brain needs a replacement

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action, and it's just natural. But when another

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woman's success triggers you, don't spiral. Don't

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shrink. Don't assign meaning. Just admire it.

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Learn from it and say it out loud. The action

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item here is next time comparison hits, run the

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script first. Admire. Wow, that's impressive.

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She did an amazing job in that meeting. Learn.

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What can you learn from it? I learned how she

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handled the tough questions, how she kept the

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conversation. positive and optimistic. And then

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praise her. Give her credit out loud. Say, hey,

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you did great at that meeting. I loved how you

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handled those tough conversations and you redirected

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everything back to your focus. Give them praise.

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That's out loud. And then do one concrete support

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move this week. Afterwards, share her win in

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a meeting or send a real compliment. Make an

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intro. Pay attention then after you admire, learn,

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and praise. Did that support really drain you?

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or did it stabilize you and maybe even motivate

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you? Swap comparison for admiration. Charlotte's

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story is such a reality check in the best way.

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You can literally be the best in the world at

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something and still hear the same inner noise.

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Comparison, self -doubt, I'm not enough, spiral,

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the pressure to prove you belong again and again.

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So if you're feeling that this week, here's your

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permission slip. Nothing is wrong with you. That's

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not a character flaw. That's a human brain under

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pressure. The difference is you don't have to

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let it drive you. Try one of Charlotte's practices.

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Predict the thought that will show up and pre

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-check your response. Detach from the outcome

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and focus on the process and what's in your control.

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And when comparison hits, swap it for admiration.

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Learn from it, say something, and support it

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out loud. If this helped, share it with a friend

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who's walking into a big room this week and follow

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Loud & Lifted for more confidence tools, real

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talk, and practical moves for women in leadership.

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Until next time, stay loud and stay lifted.